Discussion I'm afraid of myself.

During middle school two teachers I really liked died, one in 6th grade and one in 8th grade. However, I didn't feel very sad at all, I was more like, "Oh, they're dead." I'm not sure if there's something wrong with me... but there are more of us out there.

 

@Knightlight @J.R. Have given the best advice that you should heed and ignore @Danis
Also people, stop saying you're the same and offer advice.
Now my quick opinion is that no one can tell you how you should feel and that you feel bad but ultimately put yourself first which is a perfectly human reaction to the situation, offer your sympathy but don't wallow in it.

 

Aphetic person isnt that rare in this modern day of age. Even if its a relative, if you have little to almost no emotional attatchment to them, then you wont get all that emotional for them..

 

Do you see him daily? is he like a second father? if not then 100% normal. Most of the people around are pretending just as you are.

 

Same thing happened to me, the only difference is that i only saw my grandfather 2 or 3 times in all my life the last one being something like 10 years ago.

 

Well, there are different ways to express such feelings...
Also, you feeling this way and being worried is some sort of way saying that you still somewhat care, no?
And don't worry about sounding insensitive or uncaring... if it was me... i would want to get at least one call rather than nothing, right?
Well, that's my opinion...

 

And yet another apathatic person to add to my growing list... me included >.>

 

I actually think its normal... basicly, same thing happened to me. I felt sad, but not to the same level of grief as anyone else... felt out of place but was there for my family.

 

That feeling and reaction you had, you're not alone... I guess it's a way of reacting towards the situation.
Especially when you subconsciously avoids serious things... you tend to divert your thinking and attention... which often you don't really realize. (I think)
well, we have our own way of expressing our feelings and it might not be the same with other people..

 

It hits me when it hits me.

 

Sorry dude, I cannt help...
I have same problem with myself...

 

just be yourself.

 

I found I worried a lot more about these kinds of things when I was little since I didn't understand them but at the same time as I grew older I began to understand that stuff happens and you gotta except it. Since I started accepting things I found it hasn't affected me as much but at the same time I could still connect to the people around me. Maybe this is what you are feeling.

 

This pretty much nails it; the fact that you're worried about your reaction, here asking, shows that you're not dispassionate.

If you truly didn't care you wouldn't be here, you would just continue on ignoring it. You're not a horrible person, everyone reacts to terrible things in different ways. As you can see, a bunch of people react to death in a similar way you do on this site. Not sure what thats for the NUF community as a whole.. but, you're not alone in being somewhat detached.

 

I honestly think that the fact that you are concerned is a good sign. I think what someone else said that you haven't processed it yet is probably what it is... If you were a psychopath chances are you wouldn't even care, unless your using this as a method to figure out how to more hide yourself or something and asking the internet on that...

It isn't uncommon to not to have overwhelming grief to those who you aren't close to, relatives who are far off or you don't know well. It's kind of like hearing about murders in the news... It's sad, but you don't know the person well enough that it would directly affect you. Same can be said in such a case if for instance you haven't met your grandfather or only saw him like a few times in your whole life. He is like that person in the news to you. If he was someone you were close to, that you say saw every weekend for years... Then it might not have sank in yet...

Also, this is not as bad as I can imagine with your grandfather just losing his voice... He is still going to live and even though impaired with no voice he can still write... He can still be a grandfather to you and to those around him, which is actually not the worse thing... If he is going to lose his life, that would be wholly different story.

 

Watch bojak horseman, its a black comedy but also a frighteningly good look at the realities of depression.

 

Maybe you feel sad but you don't realise it

 

Just embrace yourself man, personality qwerks were hardwired into you either via genetics, or when you were too young to have any idea what was going on. You gotta play with the cards you were dealt, and worrying over shit you can't control is just a waste of time and energy. Be supportive of your family, be a good person, but don't feel guilty about the way you are.

 

you're just dead inside.
perfectly normal

 

If it makes you feel better i'm a certified psychopath and i can (kinda) relate with you (relating is very hard when you lack empathy, i can understand the meaning of these words, but not on the same level as someone else Orz )

And i'm also a certified doctor who is currently in Uni, i temporarily worked in an ambulance and have seen a few people die, you get used to it, even if you don't lack empathy